That's what losing is in pro sports. Sure, you can manage it when you have a nice cushion and you know that there will be future opportunities to prove yourself. It's not even that bad if you know you're out of the playoffs and looking more long-term at your future.
But when you are pouring all of your emotion and energy into winning one game -- one silly, stupid game -- then it really does hurt to lose. Because, to you, the game isn't silly or stupid. To you, it's pretty much what you're living for.
Rick Bowness was asked earlier if he finds time for breaks during this insane schedule, if he finds time to get away from the game, and he replied simply -- no. He said the game consumes him 24 hours a day and that while you can try to get your mind off of hockey, the icy temptress usually weasels her way back in.
The problem is that when those thoughts are negative, they can fester. Why didn't I make that line change earlier? Why did I try that pass through the neutral zone? How did I not see that shot coming at me? Every moment of the game becomes worthy of dissection, every mistake becomes something to brood over.
And that's why it can be tough when you're losing. As much as you want to do the right thing, much of your thinking is negative. Don't make a mistake, don't take a risk, don't be the guy who costs you two points. It's natural. Jason Dickinson was talking about linemate Denis Gurianov the other morning and said that Gurianov is very hard on himself.